Hello. This is a personal question so you don't have to answer if you don't want to. How long did you and your bf break up for until you guys got back together? How did you go about giving your relationship another try?
We broke up for a month and then got back together.
Our freshmen year just started and we were going to the same college. Hung out with the same crowd too. It was horrible. I was so pathetic. I cried all the time and asked for him back. I’m ashamed… but eventually I let off that, “And today, no fucks were given.” I like to think it gave me this cool edge that made him attracted to me again. Guess it’s all psychological. I was all, “LET’S GET BACK TOGETHER.” And he was like, “Ew, no.” Then I was like, “I’m over you.” And he was like, “Come back!” so in the end, he asked for me back and I thought, “Should I be a douche and tell him no like he did to me?” But who was I kidding. I still wanted him. Haha!
Every time we broke up in the past, I made the mistake of having the mind-set that “nothing will change.” It was different this time because he was overprotective and easily jealous. Something I never witnessed before. For the first couple of months, trust was a very hard thing to come by. We were both guilty of…things. That’s when we learned to forgive. There was willingness to change. It was enough to say, “Hey, I really care about you and this relationship. If what I’m doing really hurts you, I won’t do it anymore.” We were in this so that we can be a better person for each other. That’s it.
We’re definitely not perfect but we’re happier than we’ve ever been considering our numerous downsides. I also believe it was just the right place and time that brought us together, that made us stronger. Not a lot of people out there get the opportunity we had to “try again.” That break-up was worth all the tears and pain. Because if it weren’t for that, we wouldn’t have learn from our mistakes.
I know he loves me because he always does the best that he can to make me happy and call me stupid if I didn’t realize that already. It’s not about the money or the car - you’ve always pulled through. (But its a plus) Good outweighs the bad.
I had a dream that Shiyeng’s friends hooked him up with this girl he never met before and he just went along with it because he was interested.
I woke up so mad!
Then I realized, when did I unconditionally fall in love with this guy? I use I keep walls up. Guard my heart. Reminded myself that he wasn’t it for me, that there’s more out there then what he had to offer.
When did I finally open up to him, without a doubt in my mind? Maybe he’d leave me someday. Cheat on me. Hurt me.
But eventually I stopped all the negativity. Somewhere along the line, I let him in, with faith that he’s going to be the one some day…so it’s okay.
Ahhhh. I’m going a little too crazy. Been reading wayyyy to many mangas. I get so hopelessly romantic and well, since he’s away, I just miss him a whole lot and I want to be as “affectionate” as possible when he comes back on Sunday. Teehee. <3
How could I have ever been so lucky to end up with him?
Last night we were fortunate enough to be able to facetime and he was telling me about how his father asked why I wasn’t on the trip with them. He’s like, “I didn’t know she could come!” and his dad replied, “You never asked!” Then his dad tells his younger brother, “You can only bring your girlfriend if you have been dating her for 2 years plus.” &Shiyeng tells me, “He said they’ll even pay for you!” So now Shiyeng has this thought that in the future when they go on another trip, he’s taking me with him because he’s lonely without a partner. Although he’s got his brother. And then his younger brother and him started making these future plans about the trip like it’s going to happen. They make me laugh. Also because they always compete about who is the better boyfriend. Those dummies. :)
So my previous manager at Chipotle texted me and tells me that he just saw what he thinks was my boyfriend at Chipotle buying food. And I told him that he was there. Then he tells me that he gave my bf free Chipotle. So I go & ask my boyfriend if that was the case and my bf was like, “Yeah! That explains why I got free food! I thought someone must have pick-pocketed me and so that’s why they gave it to me for free but my wallet was here so I didn’t want to question it.”
Then I tell him about how afterwards, the manager started having a conversation with me (thru text) and my bf just goes, “I’ll let it slide this time. JUST because he gave me free Chipotle.”
There are certain kisses that just can’t be beat. I had a horrible argument today with Shiyeng about something utterly stupid but after some time, he came to me and told me he loved me and right at that moment I was flushed with stupidity and happiness because I didn’t want to stay mad at him so we synced and kissed and it felt so right…
This has got to be the most amazing movie ever made. I honestly didn’t want to ever watch it to begin with but since it was a Friday night, I thought I might as well…
So I’m watching it and I’m thinking it’s a great movie so far…I can’t believe I didn’t watch it sooner…and right when it gets to the end, I’m just bawling my eyes out…Only because I could relate to his feelings….by so much. I can’t even put into words… But I cried for a good while…
And some of you might watch it and be like, “Oh, it was a great movie. Wasn’t that sad though.” But if you could only feel it, actually realize the hurt.
I was once very damaged and broken. But somewhere down the path, I found my light. I’m just glad I’m not back there…again… but thankfully I had Shiyeng here with me… and he just laughed at me because he’ll never know but he’s good to me.